Dating in high school is overrated
The current generation of teens has, as you are aware, moved away from dating and is often referred to as the "hook-up" generation.Hook-ups, I am told by the teens, refer to no-strings attached physical meetings of the body ranging from kissing to intercourse.My concern is that there has been a move away from relationship-based sex to recreational sex.I am concerned as well that disconnnected sex may be too much for our teens to handle emotionally.This perceived intimacy that teens often have is based on an online presence.
It would be a shame to waste this valuable teaching moment. In therapy, teens spend a lot of time describing social stress and difficulties in "dating" relationships.
Teens are very dumb to put everything they think and do in writing. One of my friend's committed suicide and I suspect that online bullying had something to do with it, so I totally agree with the suggestion that emotional connections are felt extremely quickly when talking using a medium such as the internet, even if their intention isn't "dating" someone. Apparently, that can mean only communicating through texting, facebook, and saying "hey" when they pass each other in the halls. For his whole life you have been providing him with a (hopefully) good example of an idea of what a relationship is supposed to be like.
And the anonymity that the internet provides helps everyone be a lot more freeing, both bold teenagers asking someone they like out or being a bully. Have you considered talking to him about relationships rather than just hoping?
An Old -Fashioned Mom Dear Old-Fashioned Mom, Take heart in knowing that you are not alone in wondering what is going on with teens and relationships these days.
The answer may or may not make you feel any better depending on how you look at things but at least you'll be in the know.